In trying times, we need to make it a priority to be kind. Be mindful. It’s not easy. But, it’s important. Sure we’re emotional, things are going sideways, and everyone’s adding their drama.
It’s natural, but us humans can be pretty shitty to each other. Let’s not do that.
While our individual experiences and perceptions of a situation are different to someone else’s of the same situation, it’s not about us. We tend to make things about ourselves and we’ll defend that position stubbornly and in spite of ourselves and everyone else.
That puts other parties in defense mode. The defense gets offensive and everybody’s now pissed at each other. Well done. We invented drama where none existed, nor was needed.
Regret. Guilt. Grudges.
These things weigh on our shoulders like sandbags that haunt us and hunch us over; aging us at an exponential rate. We get old, get sick, and eventually, we actually become whom “It’s” about.
Congratulations; you win. It really is about you now.
How about this; be kind, rewind. It’s never too early or too late to rewind the shit with kindness, empathy, and understanding. “But, what about me and what he …”
You’re doing it again.
If our efforts and contributions to the good of all events leading up to this “situation” were pure of heart; not for us, not for the perception of others, but out of love (and some responsibility), then that is all we need to be aware of. We all need to take comfort in that.
No one is keeping score; unless you are and that is completely on you, my friend.
You did more? Great! The reward should be (and should have been) in the doing, not in some result. What were we expecting, anyway? A medal? Some token of recognition for our efforts? If that’s the case, we need to think about why we did all that we did. The true rewards are in the now and it can be hard to see through when we’re in it. That fog is full of drama, shit, outside opinions, judgement, and emotion.
Look for the lighthouse. When you see it, you’ll realize that the lighthouse is you. That light is made up of resolve, contentment, love, trust, and understanding. To make it even brighter, we need to let the darkness go.
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