“I am not what I think I am.
I am not what you think I am.
I am what I think you think I am.” – Thomas Cooley.
For our reality to exist, it has to be perceived from the self, through another’s perception of the self. So, for me to be as I am, I am as I think you see me.
There can be no concept of a “Me” or “I”, without others. There’d be no point. The definition of an individual wouldn’t exist if there was only one. And the perception of others as we perceive them to be, makes us real.
What I think you think I am, influences my way of being to some extent.
“But, I don’t care what they think.” The fact that we’ve acknowledged that there’s a “they” means they’ve experience us in some way and have formed some kind of opinion or judgement or mentally put us into some category. And, whether we’d like to admit it or not, it does affect us.
We are social animals and our brains are wired as such. Our thoughts, actions, reactions, attitude, confidence or lack thereof, happiness, anger, sadness, and even our health can be affected by society’s perception of us, whether it’s conscious or subconscious.
Our parents, relatives, siblings, friends, teachers, strangers, significant other, boss, co-workers, colleagues, neighbors, and acquaintances have all influenced our persona and character. It continues throughout life. Even what we think they think of us, which could be totally wrong, influences us.
We’re so weird.
As Sadhguru said, “The first and foremost success is to not be a slave to anyone’s idea.” Shed the insecurities and be comfortable with whom we are. The world wants our true self, not some version of what we think it wants. What do YOU want? Be that. However, this is not a license to be an asshole.
Not every song is a hit and not everyone likes the hit song. It’s okay. We don’t coerce people into buying tickets and force them to attend the concert that is us. No; we play our music for those who want to experience it. And we’re accepting and comfortable with those who don’t.
At the end of the “day”, we sleep with our own soul. It’s comforting to know that it is truly ours and not someone’s altered version of whom they think we are or should be. It’s not absolute and never 100% and that’s a good thing; you know … if we want to interact and relate with other humans, that is.
And, by the way; I am what I think you think I am. I am no yogi.