Can Our Self-Respect Be Motivated by Revenge?  And What Does Bruce Willis Have to Say About It?

“She dumped him for being too fat, but he got revenge by losing 100 pounds.  Now he’s lean and trim and she regrets it.” These stories are popular all over social media, but the most disturbing part is the context and delivery, using words like “dumped”, “revenge”, and “regret”.  The fact that this kind of … Continue reading Can Our Self-Respect Be Motivated by Revenge?  And What Does Bruce Willis Have to Say About It?

While Science Can Help Us to Stay Alive Longer, it’s Feelings and Emotions that Inspire Us to Want To

Real quick before we get into this: I always write the article and then look for a photo to match.  I picked this one and then, out of curiosity, I counted up the score and it happens to equal eight and the number 8 is associated with compassion, freedom, and self-reliance. Weird how that worked out. … Continue reading While Science Can Help Us to Stay Alive Longer, it’s Feelings and Emotions that Inspire Us to Want To

A License to be Happy

I just saw one of those old, tired “motivational” platitudes, posted on Linkedin:  It reads, “Tell me I can’t do it and I’ll show you I can.”  Show who?  Who is this “you”?  Who gives a shit? Where does this phantom “you” get such bullshit, gas-lighting authority and judgement to call us out? Well, the … Continue reading A License to be Happy

Never Want Something Too Much and How to Manage a Bad Beat

We’ve done everything right.  We played our cards not only right, but righteously.  We communicated, contributed, brought value to every interaction, dotted all the I’s and crossed every T.  We invested time, money, skill, and expertise into this, with a world of experience, far wider and deeper than the other players.  Everything is going as … Continue reading Never Want Something Too Much and How to Manage a Bad Beat