“So Rob, tell me; are you a God-fearing man?”
Almost twenty years ago in Nashville, I was having lunch with one of my rep agencies. There were about eight of us. When my salad came, I began to eat it while conversing with the group. As their salads came, they waited for everyone to get theirs and when they did, they all bowed their heads, while one of the guys said a prayer, blessing the food. Out of respect, I paused and remained quiet. Cool?
Mmm, not for that guy. This “man of God” had a bit of a superiority complex. A self-righteousness that gave him a higher human status than others. Pretty common. You know this guy. He’s on your HOA board, always the one talking at school events, and he’s letting eight cars go in front of him, because he’s being “nice”, while holding up an entire line of traffic that has a green light. Yeah, that guy.
He knows better than you. He’s smarter too. He’s a parent; your parent; everyone’s parent. He talks at you, not with you. He’s fucking annoying.
Back to the salad. Just before he took his first bite, he asks across the table with ultimate smugness, “So Rob, tell me; are you a God-fearing man?” Yep, the table is silent and all eyes on me. I simply responded, “I have no reason to fear God.”
Nice try. And what a shitty thing to do. I dropped them as an agency and life went on happily ever after. I have no room for that kind of shit in this life and no amount of business is worth it. I don’t think God’s a fan of it either.
I don’t need the threat of heaven or the promise of hell to be a good person.
If we’re practicing good behavior, because of the promise of a prize or punishment after death, then that goodness isn’t genuine. It’s not real. It’s deceptive and it’s value is shit. Authenticity is important.
True goodness comes from within; from the heart, or soul. As it goes, I think the vast majority of us are good or genuinely want to be. And good people do “bad” things and vice versa, given the dynamics of a situation, circumstances, and variables in real time, multiplied by how many people are involved, each with their various levels of influence, philosophy, beliefs, education, background, life experience, hormones, current mood and a myriad of other things. But, in the grand scheme of things, general goodness is a genuinely inherent trait. But with 8-billion people, we’re gonna have some bad ones and we treat them accordingly.
But, viewing God as a punisher to be feared, so that we keep ourselves in line? I thought that was the Devil’s job. Am I getting this backwards? I can’t keep up.
Hey, my theories are just as weird as the next guy’s beliefs, but I don’t believe mine are right and anyone else is wrong. Because, we don’t know. No one does. And if your beliefs and way of being doesn’t purposefully infringe upon others; mad respect. And I’m not so insecure to try to get you to believe what I believe, to make me feel righteous. And I’m certainly not going to go out of my way to try to make anyone feel inferior because they didn’t praise God before eating a bowl of salad.
I don’t believe in the personification of “God”. I don’t do religion. Each one has THE answers, when no one knows shit. I’m more of a seeker. If God is great, then what is greater than the entire universe? So … yeah, I guess I lean towards Pantheism as a concept. If we’re truly made in His (sorry ladies; I didn’t write the book) image, then we are the universe, made up of the same elements as ancient stars, some 4.5 billion years old: carbon, nitrogen, and oxygen atoms as well as other heavy elements. And it’s not just humans. No, it’s other animals as well. Even the earth itself. We are energy, experiencing existence, as we have before and will continue to do so, again and again.
What is us will once again and always be the Universe. Thank God.
As I sit here, I’m becoming aware of the music playing in the background: Ronnie James Dio is singing Heaven and Hell with Black Sabbath, “The lover of life’s not a sinner. The ending is just a beginner. The closer you get to the meaning, the sooner you’ll know that you’re dreaming. So it’s on and on and on. It goes on and on and on …”
Thank you for sharing your energy and being a part of who I am. Peace.